In one of the most compelling conversations from the Women of TmrO series, Sheneka Adams joins the platform to unpack what it means to truly grow, heal, and protect your peace. Titled "I’M NOT NICE, I’M KIND", this episode explores themes like self-definition, spiritual transformation, boundaries, and Black womanhood with raw honesty and insight.

Whether you’re a woman on your own journey of healing or someone working to unlearn societal expectations, this interview is a must-watch. Here's a breakdown of some of the most powerful insights:

1. Self-Definition: “I Define Who I Am”

Sheneka sets the tone early by reclaiming her power:

“Nobody can tell me who I am. I define who I am, not you and your angry little comments.”

She shares how she transmutes negativity and criticism into strength — viewing it as confirmation of her power. If someone is triggered by her, she says, that only reinforces her impact.

She also explains the importance of separating message from messenger, referencing controversial figures like Kevin Samuels. Growth, she says, requires dropping ego and consuming truth even when it comes in unexpected packages.

2. Healing As A Personal Responsibility

Sheneka dives into how healing requires compassion, forgiveness (for yourself, not just others), and the willingness to shed victimhood.

“I’m not a victim of my circumstances.”

From her upbringing in Athens, Georgia, to overcoming betrayal and criticism, Sheneka’s journey is one of alchemy — turning pain into purpose.

Today, she helps other women through her platforms:

• S Adams Collection (a luxury hair company)

• Simply Shena (a personal blog & support space)

• Girl Chats (private 1:1 sessions to help women heal)

3. Boundaries: “I’m Kind, But I’m Not Nice”

One of the most memorable lines from the interview:

“Niceness is too close to people pleasing. I’m kind in my heart, but don’t expect me to let you walk all over me.”

Sheneka reframes boundaries as essential tools for self-preservation — not selfishness. In fact, she says Black women must be selfish because they are often expected to give without reciprocity.

Even if setting boundaries means losing friends or ending relationships, Sheneka urges women to honor what’s best for them.

4. Monitoring Spirits & Energy Protection

Sheneka introduces the concept of “monitoring spirits” people who stay close to observe, envy, or feed off your energy.

“They’re not cheering for you. They’re checking to see if you’re still doing okay or hoping you’re not.”

She speaks candidly about walking away from people who betray her, including former friends and roommates who stole from her. Her advice is simple:

“Call it what it is. Stop dressing it up. If she stole from you, she’s a thief.”

5. Spiritual Insight: Inner Divinity Over External Control

Perhaps the deepest part of the conversation revolves around spiritual awareness. Sheneka believes that true peace and guidance come from within, not from external religious systems or societal messaging.

“The God you’re looking for is within you. Religion teaches you to look outside of yourself and that’s how they keep you lost.”

She warns against “predictive programming,” media manipulation, and fear-mongering headlines that aim to keep people at low vibrations. But knowledge, she says, is power — not something to be afraid of.

6. Living in Peace, Not Fear

Above all, Sheneka's message is about self-trust and inner peace.

“Being aware is not so you can live in fear it’s so you know how to protect yourself and not subscribe to the negativity.”

Peace, she reminds us, can’t be bought it’s the result of doing the inner work, setting boundaries, listening to your higher self, and refusing to let fear lead the way.

Watch the Full Interview on YouTube

This breakdown only scratches the surface. The full episode is rich with spiritual gems, practical wisdom, and the kind of unfiltered truth we need more of in today’s world.

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