In this powerful episode of Women of TmrO, we sit down with Zen Oasis, the healer and spiritual coach, to explore what it truly means to reset, reconnect, and realign.

This conversation dives deep into spiritual healing, meditation, inner child work, and redefining femininity in a world where survival often masks authenticity. Zen offers not only her story but a framework for how women, especially Black and Brown women, can start coming home to themselves.

The Inner Reset: Creating a Sacred Space for Release

What started as a spontaneous sound bath transformed into The Inner Reset, a healing experience and sacred space where women come to cry, scream, meditate, and simply feel. For Zen, this is more than an event. It is a necessary container for spiritual safety, especially for women of color who often carry emotional burdens in silence. The only requirement for entry is to bring an intention, even if that intention is as simple as “Give me what I need.”

“Intentions aren’t about having it all figured out. They’re about being open enough to receive.”

Intention Over Perfection: Why You Don’t Need All the Answers

Zen highlights the power of simply asking for guidance, clarity, or support. Whether you are calling in abundance or asking to be shown what is blocking your growth, it is the clarity of intention that moves energy. She has seen her own life shift by writing daily what she was calling in. That is proof that alignment can meet action when the spirit is ready.

Rethinking Meditation: Listening Instead of Silencing

One of the most freeing takeaways from Zen’s spiritual practice is her approach to meditation. Rather than striving for a quiet mind, Zen encourages us to just listen.

“The more you try to silence your thoughts, the louder they get. Meditation is about observation, not control.”

She also shares a major truth. Not every voice in your head is your own. Many of our thoughts are echoes of parents, teachers, or societal conditioning. Healing begins when we stop entertaining the thoughts that no longer belong to us.

Healing Isn’t a Gift You Can Force on Others

As someone who once tried to give healing to those around her, Zen now respects each person’s unique path. Even in parenting, she has learned to let go of the desire to control her daughter’s outcomes, choosing instead to create a container of safety and trust.

“You can’t give someone something they’re not hungry for. Even if it’s healing.”

This wisdom applies to friends, family, and even clients. The journey has to be chosen, not imposed.

Healing Is a Cycle, Not a Checklist

Zen compares healing to a multi-layered cake. You become aware, you do the work, and then you integrate. But the integration period, where we embody the wisdom and apply it in real life, is often the hardest and most overlooked step.

Many people get stuck at the “mental knowing” phase, reading all the books and repeating affirmations without grounding the transformation in their bodies and choices. True healing, she says, requires embodiment.

From Pole Dancing to Purpose: A Journey of Rediscovery

Zen’s healing journey began on the pole. After a painful breakup, she found empowerment in sensual movement, ultimately quitting her corporate job to teach full-time. She even performed for Snoop Dogg and held a pole retreat residency in Barbados.

But with time, she realized that while she was performing femininity, the hustle and performance were activating more masculine energy. Her spirit called her elsewhere, and without hesitation, she walked away.

“I don’t do things that don’t resonate with my spirit.”

This was not her first leap of faith and it will not be her last.

Sisterhood, Self-Worth and the Energy of Competition

One of the rawest parts of the interview explores how competition, guilt, and shame shape women’s relationships with each other. Zen reflects on how masculine energy, such as comparison, scarcity, and survival mode, often creeps into female friendships and prevents real connection.

“Sometimes we struggle to compliment or celebrate other women because we fear making ourselves smaller in the process.”

The healing work is not just about ourselves. It is about the stories we have internalized about each other.

Guilt, Shame and the Inner Child

Zen offers a spiritual lens on guilt. It is not just emotional, but a felt sense of disconnection from the Divine. It often manifests from childhood wounds and carries physical consequences if not addressed.

Shame, she says, is the cousin of guilt. It often urges us to hide parts of ourselves we believe are bad. But healing begins when we can sit with our inner child and whisper, “You’ve done nothing wrong.”

Final Takeaways

• Intention is powerful, even when vague. You do not need all the answers to ask for transformation.

• Meditation is not about silencing thoughts. It is about tuning into what is already there and choosing what to interact with.

• Healing cannot be rushed or forced. The journey is layered, embodied, and deeply personal.

• Releasing control leads to authenticity. Whether parenting, creating, or living, it all starts with surrender.

• Sisterhood needs healing too. Competition fades when we anchor in self-worth and love.

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