In this unforgettable Women of TmrO interview with Candyss Love, intuitive guide, author, and entrepreneur Candyss Love takes us on a courageous journey through trauma, healing, and spiritual awakening. It’s not just an interview it’s an activation for anyone seeking to reconnect with their authentic self.

Whether you’re in a season of reinvention, detachment, or deep emotional reflection, Candyss’s raw storytelling and spiritual wisdom offer a powerful mirror for your own inner work.

Here are some of the most soul-stirring insights and themes from the episode:

1. Redefining Trauma: It's Not Always the Big Things

“Trauma does not have to be this huge catastrophic situation.”

Candyss opens up about her childhood growing up in Houston with a mother recovering from addiction and navigating a household where her emotional needs went unmet. But what left a deeper wound wasn’t just the chaos it was small, overlooked moments like being forced to eat foods she didn’t like. These moments created early identity imprints and coping mechanisms.

This reminds us: trauma isn’t always about what happened it’s about what your nervous system couldn’t process.

2. The Purpose of Life is to Remember Who You Are

“Children are angels in their purest form… The purpose in life is to remember.”

As we grow, we’re programmed by society, family, and survival to forget our true nature. We adopt “masks” to cope being the strong one, the overachiever, the people-pleaser. Candyss encourages us to slow down, sit in silence, and gently peel back the layers.

Healing begins when you unlearn. When you stop trying to “be someone” and start coming home to yourself.

3. Detachment Is Freedom—Not Loss

“The purpose is to become nobody.”

In a society obsessed with status, Candyss’s decision to walk away from her Mercedes and her badge as a police officer was radical. But it was necessary. She realized those things were tied to her ego not her essence.

Detachment isn’t about denying yourself nice things. It’s about making sure those things don’t define your worth.

4. Relationships Are Spiritual Classrooms

“Relationships are only designed for us to be able to heal, grow and evolve.”

We often chase relationships for love and validation. But Candyss invites a new perspective: your partner is a mirror. They reflect your unresolved wounds, your inner child, your fears. That tension? That’s where the work is.

When a relationship becomes “more turmoil than love,” it’s a sign: your spirit is trying to graduate. Don’t ignore your intuition for crumbs of affection.

5. Self-Love Means Keeping Your Word to Yourself

“Your body starts to believe you don’t love yourself if you keep breaking promises to you.”

Whether it’s committing to a workout, honoring your rest, or speaking your truth, Candyss says accountability is a sacred act of self-love. You show your body that you’re safe and trustworthy. That you matter.

Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up—even when no one’s watching.

6. Sacred Anger & the Shadow Side of Healing

“Being spiritual doesn’t mean always being soft.”

There’s a misconception in spiritual spaces that healing is all “love and light.” Candyss says: don’t skip the rage, the grief, the fire. Repressed anger festers. Processed anger empowers.

Speak your truth. Set boundaries. Be okay with being the villain in someone else’s story if it means honoring your own.

7. Challenging the “Strong Black Woman” Narrative

“Thoughts create realities… Don’t attach to stories that keep you in suffering.”

Candyss unpacks how many Black women wear independence as armor—rooted in pain, not power. Saying “I don’t need anyone” may be protecting a wounded inner child who’s afraid of being let down again.

We must give ourselves permission to receive, to be soft, supported, and seen.

8. Honoring Sacred Solitude in Partnership

“Sacred alone time is spiritual hygiene.”

Candyss’s healing journey included four years of celibacy and inner work. Now in a deeply conscious marriage, she and her partner prioritize alone time, separate rooms, and freedom within the relationship.

Being in union doesn’t mean losing yourself. The right person will protect your peace, not possess your path.

9. Choosing Not to Have Children: A Sacred Reframe

“To birth anything is to help it evolve.”

Candyss made the intentional choice not to have children—a decision that doesn’t diminish her nurturing spirit. She reminds us that mothering energy can be expressed in countless ways: mentoring, holding space, creating, or supporting others in transition.

Your purpose isn’t limited by biology it’s defined by how you show up in the world.

Final Thoughts

This episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, spiritual sovereignty, and self-honesty. Candyss Love reminds us that healing is messy, sacred, and worth it.

🌿 Watch the full episode here: Your Identity, Attachments, and Intuition with Candyss Love | WOMEN OF TMRO

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